The Daily Struggle: First Kisses
Today's daily struggle is one that I know a lot of women had to deal with (and men too, but mainly this is an issue for the ladies). I am going to pose it as a question, does the first kiss make or break the relationship? My opinion is no, but that it does give you some low expectations for future lip-locking endeavors.
I recently had a first kiss with this individual I have been seeing. I knew that the kiss was coming, but I wasn’t sure how it was going to go. For the sake of him potentially reading this I am just going to say that it could have gone better. I could tell was nervous, which obviously plays a part in the execution of a first kiss. I mean, Being nervous to kiss someone as desirable as me is really intimidating. I’M KIDDING. It is a common thing for both parties involved to be nervous. It certainly doesn’t help the situation. Had he been a little more relaxed, it could’ve been better.
The problem was that he tried to put his lips where I usually put mine. I feel like because I am short I go for the bottom lip, but that is where he went and it just messed it all up. But then again, how was he supposed to know? It was just awkward and not very good. Too slow and too shaky. The good news is that there is only one way to go and that is up!
If you have a first kiss that goes bad do you continue to see that person? How I feel is that a kiss doesn’t make the person. I have dated people who were great at kissing and just awful as people. The good thing is if you are a good kisser you can train the other person to follow along with you. It’s like follow the leader but with your tongue. A lot of my friends have gone through the same thing and some of them even married people that they had terrible kisses with.
The moral of the story is, the first kiss is not always an indication that the relationship is destined to fail. It is just a hiccup or something that needs to be worked on. It does not change the person or the chemistry between you two. As long as it gets better the second time, that is all that matters!