The Daily Struggle: FOMO (Fear of Missing Out)
Finally Friday! However, the stress doesn’t stop there... Does anyone else struggle to plan out their weekends? I find that I always have so much going on that I never get to actually relax and unwind. I think it all stems from not being able to turn down a good invite. FOMO, otherwise known as “Fear Of Missing Out”, is a true issue of mine. I have to constantly be in the know or go to every event I am invited to or I will feel left out. This seems to be a common issue for me and most of my friends. We all just need to start being able to say no and indulge in some more self-care.
It is really hard to turn down a good invite to just sit at home with your cat and watch Netflix, but sometimes that’s the type of relaxation your body needs. It’s not like you’re never going to see your friends again. That old dive bar will still be there next week when you decide to plan a Happy Hour there. If you are feeling stressed, overwhelmed and sluggish, it is important to allow yourself some time to relax. I understand more than anyone that friends can be persistent and bug you over and over until you get in. You just have to stand your ground and let them know that you need some time to yourself.
If your friends are anything like mine, they will not leave any details of their nights or times without you unknown. They provide every detail. Even when it is not necessary. I found that the first step to overcoming FOMO is letting people know you have it. From there, they will keep you in the loop over the fear that you will freak out if you don’t know every detail. I legit would hold grudges on people because they wouldn’t tell me what was going on. It is a real problem sometimes.
This weekend I was invited to dinner, invited out to drinks, invited to go to the pool, and invited to go shopping. All things I would love to do, but there is just no time to get it all done. Also, after the busy week I had, I would love some time to just take a nap or watch a movie, but you know damn well you’ll see me on social media scream-singing Drake at a bar. I will be sure to spend some time relaxing, but I can’t sit around ALL weekend and miss out on some good times and memories. That’s just crazy!
Allowing yourself some time to relax is the key. Even if it is just putting on a face mask, or indulging in a glass of wine. It is important to unwind and not feel forced to constantly be on the go. Fear of missing out will always be there, and so will the opportunities to go out to dinner with friends or go shopping. Life is all about balance and not forgetting to show yourself some love. So, when you’re feeling the struggle of making plans for the weekend, give yourself the option to say no and to turn down some plans. You can’t do it all, and the people in your life know that. Spend a little time caring for yourself this weekend and try ignoring those FOMO feelings.