The Weekly Win
Let’s step away from the daily struggles for today and focus on some Weekly Wins! For starters, I didn’t die. It’s always a good week when you get to live. I also managed to do laundry without losing a sock. But the win that takes the cake is that I went on a date with someone I met online and it went surprisingly well.
Dating online is not always the easiest. It seems like nowadays that is the only way to meet people. You just swipe and swipe and swipe until your thumbs form calluses. Eventually, you stumble across someone that piques your interest. Then you either have to go out of your way to message them, or you have to wait for a message from them. Either way, it’s not the easiest process, but it is easier than going out every single night and trying to attract men with your wit, charm, and charisma.
I consider this a huge win for the week because the last couple dates I went on were not great. At the time, I was using both Bumble and Hinge. Hinge is a newer dating app that honestly is way too much effort. You have to answer questions, put captions on your photo, and make it look aesthetically pleasing. Just too much. However, I did meet someone on there and decided to meet him for drinks. I wanted to do something super casual for the first date, and I always meet someone in a public place, because quite frankly I don’t have time to get murdered.
Anyways, we decided to meet at a local bar. I arrived there early so I grabbed a table and patiently waited for my dates arrival. Usually, I am the one that is always late, so this was new to me. I am not usually a nervous person, but for some reason, I was really nervous. I just sat and watched the door like a dog waiting for his soldier to come home from war. FINALLY, I see a man walk through the door. He looked like the guy I was supposed to be meeting online? I included the question mark because I just wasn't sure. Pictures truly are deceiving. He was about 3 feet shorter than the 6’0” that he mentioned he was online. I practically was on a date with one of the hobbits from Lord of the Rings. Now, it’s not that there's anything wrong with short guys, but there is something wrong with people lying about themselves on dating apps/social media. That was the first red flag.
There he was..my little pocket elf. He just immediately began talking about himself. I could barely get a word in. Anyone that knows me knows that I love to talk and hate when a conversation is one-sided. I let him ramble on about his obsession with Japanese cartoons, his pet iguana named Timothy, and how he loved giving foot rubs. I’m sorry, but unless you’re a twelve-year-old boy, Japanese cartoons are not a way to make a lady swoon. Also, Timothy the iguana?? What a dumb name. And don’t even get me started on the foot rubbing. I might as well just give up now.
Overall, the date did not go well. He did not care to listen to anything I had to say. He didn’t offer to pay for any of my drinks (which is fine but still would have been a nice gesture), and he gave me a wet, sloppy kiss on the cheek. A KISS ON THE CHEEK? What are you an 85-year-old grandmother? I was so relieved once we parted ways. He clearly was very confident in how the date went because he continuously texted me for weeks after. I told him I wasn’t interested, but he was very persistent. After a couple of days in a row of ignoring him, he finally got the hint. I don’t like being mean to people, but some guys just can’t take a hint.
After that date, I decided to take a little break from dating apps. I decided to try and meet people organically, but meeting guys at bars aren’t the best. It’s always so loud and sweaty. The guys usually are only looking for one thing (if you know what I mean). One night after the bar I found myself swiping through Bumble, and I came across a super cute guy. He seemed like he had his life together from his bio and photos. I learned you can’t really trust those, but I figured I would give him a shot. I messaged him, and he responded! From there we began messaging daily and then eventually texting.
We met on Saturday for some drinks, and it went really well. The conversation flowed so easily. It was nice having an actual connection with someone. We ended up hanging out for 3 hours. That’s a sign that the date was successful. A huge win for the week, and my dating life! It just goes to show that there will always be struggles with dating and other things in your life, but you can’t let one experience stop you from putting yourself out there again. Something great is bound to come out of your efforts at some point. Stay positive and turn those daily struggles into weekly wins!